COLUMN - University: that life changing leap that you have to take

Monday, 16 December 2013
University is life changing. It lets you find yourself and see what makes you a happy human being. However, most importantly helps you realise who are the people worth being in your life. Moving into the University life isn’t easy at all – new city, new place and new friends.

Universities always try and make it easier for their students to make friends with course peers, as well as, new flatmates. By setting up Facebook pages, they enable you to speak to people you will soon be seeing every day. Nottingham Trent University did the exact – I found out who is going to be joining my course way before September. It gave me the confidence to be able to communicate with others and talk about the topics on the course, which were confusing to me – turned out that a lot of people had the same problems. Everyone knows how hard it is to find new friends, especially in a place you have never been before. No matter what you think, everyone is in the same situation whilst moving in to start the ‘uni life’.

Fear of rejection: we are all in the same situation
Fresher’s week. This was the very first and very best week at University. Everyone just starts to get to know each other – you get to meet people from all around the globe! Your flatmates could either become your family or enemies. Fortunately, mine are my new family. I have never thought that I would feel this comfortable around people I have only met couple of weeks ago. Once again – we were all in the same position. None of us knew each other, none of us knew what to expect. Nottingham is known to be the best student city. There are two incredible Universities, which both offer lifetime opportunities to all their dedicated students.

To break the ice, my course leader had put each one of us in different groups, to complete different activities. Ice breaker – to be honest, every time I had to change a group I wasn’t so excited, as each time I had negative thoughts. The fear of rejection. However, it has turned out to be great surprise to me each time! I could have not been any happier to be able to call these people my friends. At the end of the day, small talk isn’t a bad thing at all – you realise how many people there are to meet. Although, you cannot be friends with everyone, you always meet the people you feel you can be yourself around. I always think it is better for you to be your true self around everyone, so they all see the real you from day one.

It is complicated. It is difficult. It is scary. However, no one ever said life is going to be easy. We all meet different people every day of our lives – some of them decide to stay and these are the ones we should truly care for. My mum has always said to me “You might not be able to choose your family, but you are sure able to choose your friends.”

Karolina Wilczek

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